Common Swinging Terminology

What do all those acronyms in swingers personal ads mean? What in the world is a MWC? Here's where you will find your swinging term answers. We have a page of professional sex terms too that *may* be used in swingers ads too.

Try the Dirty Slang dictionary for any ones you don't find here!


AC/DC
   Person who enjoys both same sex and opposite sex sexual activity; Bi; Bisexual.
ADULT
   Euphemism for pornographic.
ALL CULTURES
   Person or couple who enjoys all fetishes and sexual activities (see CULTURE).
AMERICAN CULTURE
   Man on top, the missionary position.
ANAL SEX
   Anal intercourse; see Greek, Greek Culture.
ANALINGUS
   Oral contact or stimulation of the anus of one partner by kissing, licking, or sucking of the other.
ANIMAL TRAINING
   Sexual activity with animals, usually dogs and women; Bestiality.
ARTS
    Euphemism for fetishes; Cultures.
B&D or B/D
   Bondage and discipline; use of various methods to restrain someone while administering discipline, usually done by a "master" to his/her "slave". (see BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE).
BDSM
   Bondage, Discipline, Sado-Masochism. This is a catch-all to refer to the various aspects of negotiated, mutually consensual exchange of power between two consenting adults. Regardless of the depth of the relationship, consent, safety and sanity are the cornerstone of the lifestyle.
BBW Big Beautiful Woman
   Attractive women with a rubenesque (plump or fleshy and voluptuous) or large physical build.
BESTIALITY
   (see ANIMAL TRAINING)
BHM Big Handsome Man
   Attractive man with a large physical build.
BI
   Bisexual: Versatile (see AC/DC).
BI-CURIOUS
   A Male or Female who is interested in trying same-sex activities.
BIZARRE
   Unusual sexual desires; Way out.
BJ Blowjob
   The act of sucking and licking on the male penis; i.e. fellatio.
BONDAGE
   A sexual fetish in which restraints such as ropes, chains, cloth or leather straps are used to bind, tie or hold a participating sexual partner. The person doing the binding is considered "dominant" while the person being bound is considered "submissive."
BOXER FUCKING
   This is where the male never undresses fully, does his fucking thru his boxer's front opening. (see ZIPPER FUCKING)
CAN ENTERTAIN
   Advertiser willing to invite others to their home for swinging.
CAN TRAVEL
   Advertiser willing to travel to your home to swing.
CANING
   A spanking fetish employing a light cane usually bamboo or other light wood.
CHEATING
   Sexual activity with others without spouse's knowledge and/or consent.
CLEAN
   Hygienic; Free of sexually transmitted diseases.
CLIT or CLITORIS
   A small erectile organ with many nerve endings located near the vagina.
CLOSED DOOR
   (see CLOSED SWINGING).
CLOSED SWINGING
   Sexual interaction among couples using separate rooms so that partners of a marriage or other intimate relationship do not visually observe each other's swinging. The rooms are almost always in the same house/hotel.
CLOSET SWINGER
   A person who hides the fact that he/she is a swinger. (see DISCREET)
COUPLE
   In swinging, a man and a woman. May be married, living together (cohabitation), committed (on going relationship) or a single couple dating for swinging purposes.
CPL
   (see COUPLE).
CUCKOLD
   While the originally meaning is the husband of a wife who cheats, it has come to mean (more often than not) a husband who's wife plays without him and comes home to tell him about it. It can also mean a husband who watches his wife play with others, or is forced to watch. This can also be reversed on the wife. Since different people use the word to mean different things, it is best to ask the people using the word in order to clarify the definition.
CULTURE
   Euphemism for Fetish or Arts.
CUNNILINGUS
   Stimulation of the vagina and clitoris by the mouth especially the tongue and lips, and sometimes the teeth (see FRENCH CULTURE).
DDF / DD&F
   Drug and Disease Free.
DP
   Double Penetration. The act of penetrating the female vagina by two men's penis' or to penetrate both the vagina and the females anus.
DS
   Dominant & Submissive lifestyle.
DILDO
   An artificial penis, usually made of rubber or plastic, for sexual stimulation of the vagina and sometimes the anus.
DIRECTOR
   The term used to describe the principal person who runs or otherwise operates a swing club, generally the owner. A person who works for the director and is responsible for party or club operation whether or not for pay, is generally called a Manager.
DISCIPLINE
   A sexual fetish in which one partner dominates the other, a willing participant. Often includes physical punishment of the submissive partner, ranges from physical restraint to mild spankings to painful beatings.
DISCREET OR DISCRETION
   Asking those who write or call to exercise caution so that children or others who may open mail or answer phone will not be offended and/or made aware of the swinging activity.
DOCILE
   Willing to receive bondage and/or discipline (see SUBMISSIVE).
DOMESTIC TRAINING
   Submissive obedience to household chores of an intimate and humiliating nature.
DOMINANT
   A sexual partner in control of a willing submissive partner.
ENGLISH CULTURE
   Sexual stimulation from spanking or caning
ENTERTAIN
   (see CAN ENTERTAIN)
EXHIBITIONIST
   Behavior in which an individual experiences sexual arousal or pleasure from displaying his/her body or engaging in sexual acts. Enjoys being watched.
F
   Female
FELLATIO
   Sexual stimulation of the penis by the mouth, especially by the tongue and lips and sometimes teeth.
FETISH
   Sexual arousal and pleasure through use of non-sexual objects, actions or non-genital anatomy.
FLAGELLATION
   Sexual stimulation derived from pain, usually whipping or spanking.
FRENCH CULTURE
   Oral-genital sexual activity; see Fellatio, Cunnilingus
FUN AND GAMES
   Euphemism for sexual activity.
FWB
   Friends, with a common interest and desires, but with no strings attached for anyone. No commitment, nothing like that.
GAY
   A homosexual person, male or female. A gay female may also be called a Lesbian.
GBM
   Gay Black Male.
GENEROUS
   Refers to money for sex.
GREEK CULTURE
   Anal-penile intercourse
GROUP ROOM
   Room set aside for group sex, generally furnished with wall-to-wall mattresses or pads. Term is prevalent in western US (see MATROOM).
GROUP SEX
   Swinging; Sexual activity between three or more people.
GWM
   Gay White Male.
HARD CORE
   A swing party or swing engagement where sexual interaction is assumed and expected.
HARD SWINGING
   (see HARD CORE).
HEAD
   Oral-genital sexual activity; "Giving head" (see French).
HEDONIST
   Someone who lives for pleasure.
HETEROSEXUAL
   Sexual attraction to members of the opposite sex.
HOMOSEXUAL
   Sexual attraction to members of the same sex and no interest in the opposite sex. (See GAY).
HORNY
   Sexually tense; In need of sexual pleasure.
HUNG
   Refers to a man with a large penis.
HWP
   Height-Weight Proportionate; Someone who is at their ideal body weight.
INDOOR
   Swinging activities in general.
INDOOR SPORTS
   (See INDOOR).
INTERESTED IN FRIENDSHIP
   Seeks a swinging relationship that includes emotional and recreational values.
IRL
   In Real Life; Used in ads or online chat.
ISO
   In Search Of; Used in ads; MWC ISO Single Female.
LEATHER
   A fetish; Sexual stimulation through the wearing or touching of leather or leather garments.
LESBIAN
   A woman sexually and emotionally attracted to other women. (see GAY).
LTR
   Long Term Relationship.
MARITAL AIDS
   Dildos, vibrators, and other devices used for sexual pleasure of self and others.
MASOCHISM
   Sexual gratification through receiving pain and humiliation from others.
MASTER/SLAVE
   Participants in a bondage and discipline sexual relationship. (see B&D, BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE).
MATROOM
   Room set aside for group sex. Principally an eastern US term (see GROUP ROOM).
MEET FOR PLEASURE
   Will meet for swinging sex; no pretense for social or emotional interaction not directly related to sexual activity.
M�nage A' Trois
   Three people, two of one sex, one of the opposite sex in a swinging interaction. (see THREESOME, TRIAD).
MORESOMES
   More than three people in a swinging interaction. (see GROUP SEX).
MBC
   Married Black Couple.
MBiC
   Married Bisexual Couple.
MWC
   Married White Couple.
NASCA
   The North American Swing Club Association. An association of swing clubs and magazines to promote swinging as the viable and beneficial lifestyle it has become. Levels of members: Affiliate Club, General, Associate and Institutional for swing clubs and magazines, general swinging community, media and institutions of learning and research.
NEWCOMERS
   New people in swinging; First-timers.
NONSMOKER
   Does not smoke. If used in personal ad means only those who do not smoke are sought for swinging purposes.
OFF-PREMISE
   No swinging takes place at the club or party; you meet and make your own arrangements. Great for newcomers.
OPEN DOOR
   (see OPEN SWINGING).
OPEN MINDED
   A person or couple who will consider anything and is not firm in their desires or expectations.
OPEN SWINGING
   A couple swinging with another couple in the same room; Several or all participating couples together in the same room. (Western US) swing party where participants socially mix and are free to swing as couples, in one-to-one pairings and group sex during the progress of the party. A minimum of privacy.
ORAL-GENITAL
   (see FRENCH, CUNNILINGUS, FELLATIO, HEAD).
ORGY
   Sexual interaction among several men and women in the same room; Complete absence of inhibition in everyone taking part; group sex.
PARTY
   Gathering of three or more people of both sexes for swinging.
PARTY CLOTHES
   Clothing particularly adapted for swing party wear, Includes wear to the party and wear to change into during the party. The latter includes robes, lingerie, terry cloth wrap-around's and other simple wear that is easily removed, shows the wearer to best advantage and often makes selected parts of the body easily available for erotic courting and play.
PARTY HOUSE (Western US)
   A non-membership swing club offering a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties.
PASSIVE
   Quiet, submissive non-contributor, willing to receive corrective training. Docile and submissive in swinging. (see DISCIPLINE).
PHOTO
   Interested in exchange of nude or sexually explicit photos of self with similar photos of others.
PHOTOGRAPHY
   Interested in exchange and/or making of nude or sexually explicit photographs, color slides or movies with similar photographs, slides or movies of others; interested in meeting with others for the making of these photographs.
P/P
   Photo and phone number (used in personal ads).
PRO
   Professional; i.e. prostitutes or paid escorts.
RECREATIONAL SWINGER
   A person who practices swinging primary as a recreational diversion; not interested in forming any long term friendship or emotional attachment.
RESTRAINT
   Mild bondage used in sexual fantasy enactments.
RIMMING
   Oral stimulation of the anus.
ROMAN
   Group sex, orgies, the party scene, etc (see ROMAN CULTURE).
ROMAN CULTURE
   Sexual orgies.
RUBBER
   Condom means of contraception. A fetish: sexual stimulation through the look, feel and smell of rubber, usually associated with Bondage and Discipline.
SADISM
   Sexual gratification through inflicting physical pain or emotional abuse on others.
SAFE
   Used to describe a person who cannot conceive or impregnate; a man who has had a vasectomy; Naturally or surgically sterile.
SASE
   Self-addressed stamped envelope.
SBF
   Single Black Female.
SBiF
   Single Bisexual Female.
SBM
   Single Black Male.
SGL
   (see SINGLE).
S&M or S/M
   Sadism and Masochism (see SADISM, MASOCHISM).
SINGLE
   A swinger without a partner, does not refer to marital status.
SOCIAL
   A party, dance or other gathering usually sponsored by a swing club or magazine, for swingers to meet and socialize. There is no swinging at a social, but privately arranged swinging may follow a social.
SOCIAL SWING CLUB
   A swing club, generally private membership that offers social and swinging activities including a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties. They may also offer educational and travel activities. Usually there is a membership fee and either party fees, party donations or a regular maintenance fee or dues. Party attendance may be restricted to couples though the marital status of the couple is rarely important.
SODOMY
   Non-coital, especially anal or oral, copulation with either an opposite sex or same sex partner.
SOFT SWING/SWINGING
   The term soft swing is sometimes used to describe SRS, watching/being watched, or any sexual encounter up to, but not including intercourse, with someone other than your spouse. We feel that it's important for all of us to have the same definition, to avoid any confusion or disappointment. Our definition is: full oral sex (to the point of climax), oral/digital penetration of the vagina and bodily touching. Yes, hotdi does swallow! This is WITHOUT vaginal penetration of a male penis in a woman whom is not his partner. Quite a few say: "Soft swinging to us is NO oral between partners. Women can play but Men can only WATCH."
SOFT SWINGERS
   Couples who only have intercourse with their own partner. See SOFT SWING.
SOFT SWINGING
   The term used to describe same-room sex, watching/being watched, or any sexual encounter up to, but not including intercourse, with someone other than your spouse. The first experience for many couples some type of soft-swinging. (see HARD SWINGING, HARD CORE).
SRS
   Same Room Sex (see SOFT SWINGING).
STD
   Sexually Transmitted Disease. A term developed in the late 1970's to replace VD as the latter carried social and moral implications in the minds of many. These social and moral implications interfered with the legitimate treatment of sexually transmitted diseases as a medical problem.
STR or STR8
   (see STRAIGHT).
STRAIGHT
   Any person who is not interested in engaging in homosexual activity or A person who does not use drugs; also used by swingers to denote non-swinging people.
SUBMISSIVE
   Passive, wishes to be dominated (see Passive).
SWAPPING
   Two couples exchanging partners for sexual activity.
SWEDISH CULTURE
   Use of the hands especially in massage to sexually stimulate another.
SWM
   Single White Male.
SWF
   Single White Female.
SWING MAGAZINE
   A periodical catering to the swinging community. Usually carries personal ads of people wishing to meet others for swinging purposes. May also publish articles of general interest to the swinging community.
SWINGING
   An alternative lifestyle for consenting adults who enjoy social, recreational sexual activities with others, most often on a couple-to-couple basis, with full knowledge and mutual consent of both partners; single men and women are sometimes involved.
SWINGING LIFESTYLE
   Style of living with swinging a major component in recreation, choice of friends, business and social life, and intimate relationships.
SWINGING MARRIAGE
   Marriage incorporating swinging and often, humanistic ideals.
SWM
   Single White Male.
TAN
   Tested Antibody Negative for HIV virus(AIDS).
THREESOME
   Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a swinging encounter. (see M�nage A' Trois).
TICKET
   A person, usually a woman, brought to a swing party solely to enable the male to gain entrance. The ticket generally has no intention to swing or is not free to swing.
TOYS
   Sexual aids, such as dildos, vibrators, and other devices used for sexual pleasure of self and others.
TRANSSEXUAL
   Individual who has undergone conversion from one gender to another through surgery and hormone treatments; or one who is in the process of gender conversion.
TRANSVESTITE
   A person who receives sexual gratification by wearing clothes identified with the opposite sex; not necessarily homosexual.
TRAVEL
   (see CAN TRAVEL).
TRIAD
   Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a continuing relationship of emotional and sexual involvement. Not the same as a threesome.
TRIOLISM
   Used in personal ads to indicate desire for "threesomes". This is a common but confusing usage (see TRIAD).
TUBAL LIGATION
   Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the fallopian tubes to make a woman infertile. Also called a Band Aid Operation in reference to the small incision made just below the navel to enable the cutting and ligation.
UTOPIAN SWINGER
   A person who practices swinging as a total lifestyle with humanistic ideals.
VAGINA
   The passage in the female body leading from the opening of the vulva to the cervix of the uterus.
VASECTOMY
   Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the vas deferens to artificially sterilize a male.
VERSATILE
   Bisexual. (see AC/DC).
VIBRATOR
   Electrically run vibrating device for stimulation of the vagina by insertion or holding to outer lips, clitoris, breasts and the male penis. Some vibrators are penile shaped and are run by batteries while more expensive ones are for surface use and are run by an AC motor from a typical wall outlet. Vibrators are used by both men and women for self-stimulation and to sexually please another.
VOLUPTUOUS
   Fullness of beauty and form; usually used to refer to a woman with large well-formed breasts; may also refer to full but well formed hips.
VOYEUR
   A person who enjoys watching others in sexual acts.
VOYEURISM
   Sexual gratification by watching or peeping at others engaged in sexual activity.
VULVA
   The external genital organs of the female, including the labia majora, labia minora, clitoris, and vestibule of the vagina.
WAY-OUTS/ WEIRDOS
   Those people interested in activities usually considered by the majority to be bizarre, kinky, unusual, or unconventional.
YMMV
   Your Mileage May Vary - different people may have different experiences.
ZIPPER FUCKING
   This is where the male never undresses, does his fucking thru his zipper.


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