Swingers Party Rules
These parties are primarily a swinger’s
affair. That does not mean that
physical/sexual interaction between individuals is a given. Some people will be there for watching and
being watched. For them even a soft
touch is over the top. NO ONE
should not come to the party expecting to get laid or sucked off by others.
- NO MEANS NO! This is the Main Rule; Yes, these are
parties at which anything can (and often does) happen, but no one is to be
pressured to do anything they don't want to do. If you can't respect other
people's wishes swinging is NOT for you! No is not an insult. No may be
because of a mood, a rule, or it might mean the other person (couple) is
not ready. It may also mean, "No, thank you, but I'm not interested."
That is every swinger’s prerogative. It may or may not be personal. We are
all adults, deal with it!
- NO PRESSURE: By the same
token, no one
is allowed to pressure YOU to do anything that you do not wish to do. If anyone tries to pressure you into
doing anything, or is being unduly aggressive, let us know and the
offending parties will be shown the door.
- WOMEN CONTROL THE PLAY at parties. We are all aware
that some women like to initiate, and some like to be approached and/or
pursued by men. Having said that,
no male should EVER touch a female intimately without her consent. And no, the mere presence of a woman at
the party does NOT imply her consent.
- Hands: Watch those hands. Don't be handsy. Don't grab other
people, their breasts, their butts, don't pull up their skirts. Before you
have had sex it's rude and after you have had sex its still rude! Being
handsy makes people uncomfortable and, even worse, it make people not like
- Play-At-Your-Own-Risk! People, know thyself.
In your enthusiasm to play, don't forget that you are a human mortal of
whatever age and physical condition. If, however, you do forget your limits,
or trip over the ménage à trois happening on the floor, that's on you. We are not responsible for any conditions
sustained during the course of the party.
- DRUGS: Our parties
are drug free. People arriving excessively
impaired (our call) and or visibly high will not be allowed into the party.
You will not get a refund! Anyone becoming excessively high or
impaired (our call) after arriving will be ejected from the party without a
will also be removed from the group and future party lists. This is for the protection of
our other guests.
- ALCOHOL is permitted. Feel free to bring your own alcoholic
refreshments. Note that we consider allowing drinking to be a privilege
bound to your own self control. Many other parties are dry (no alcohol
permitted). People arriving excessively impaired (our call) or drunk will not
be admitted to the party. Becoming excessively drunk (our call) after
arriving will get you ejected from the party without a refund. You will be removed from the group and future
party lists. After all, no one can
get a hard-on when trashed. This is for the protection of our other guests.
- WHAT HAPPENS AT A PARTY STAYS
AT A PARTY! Do not mention to non-party members, and
especially to hotel staff or other hotel guests, that there is a sex party
going on. When talking to other
party members outside the parties, be discreet. You don't know who might overhear you. This is a very private matter for most,
and one they don't want most people to know about. Never, ever mention names!
- NO CAMERAS OR RECORDING DEVICES
ALLOWED! We are aware that some people like being
photographed or filmed during play, and that's great. However, many people are uncomfortable
with the mere presence of cameras at parties. This includes the use of cell phones in
any area where play is ongoing. If
the M-n-G room has any action ongoing please use the bathroom, balcony,
terrace or hotel hallway.
- ARRIVE IN NORMAL STREET WEAR. NOT streetwalker wear, street wear! If part of your turn on is to be dressed up either cover up on the way in (a trenchcoat in 90 degree July weather?) or change in the party room's bathroom. We do NOT wish to attract undue
attention from the hotel staff or other guests. We like this hotel, we'd like to be
able to use them again for a long time.
- SPECIAL FOOD NEEDS: Part of the donation is put towards
the purchase of snacks, beverages & party supplies. If
you have any special dietary requirements please bring them along.
- SEX PARTY!!! There will be a sitting area where most
of the action will not be taking place during the arrival time.
After that time however, people are pretty much allowed to do what they like where
they like. If someone decides to go
at it in the middle of the sitting area, this is perfectly acceptable, and
even encouraged by the more voyeuristic amongst us. The point is, DO NOT attend the sex party
if you do not want to see things sexual.
- CONDOM USE IS THE RULE, the exception being
established couples who chose to play with each other. We do ask party guests to bring their own
- TOYS: We welcome group members to bring
along any sex toys and/or other erotic paraphernalia your lustful little
hearts desire. Sybians are
- SMOKING: No smoking of ANY
substance, especially illegal ones is permitted
in any part of the hotel’s rooms. This includes the bedrooms, kitchenette,
hallsand ALL of the bathrooms.
Exiting and reentry of the room for hourly smoke breaks is discouraged as
it brings undue attention to us. Unknown people may tailgate the smoker’s
reentry and jeopardize the party’s security. Other parties
precedence or allowances DO NOT apply at our parties.
- NOISE: To the hotel we are an
innocuous group. Drawing attention to ourselves with excessive noise may
cause them to visit and reprimand or ask us to remove ourselves from the
hotel. It is everyone’s responsibility to keep others behaving quietly
(outside of sounds of passion, a ‘normal’ sound in a hotel). Remember
in 2004 a hotel in CT resorted to outside means for control after
several warnings to the party. We’d like keep using this hotel
for a long time too!
- ARRIVAL and
DEPARTURE TIMES: Arrive between 7:30pm and 9pm. No one will be admitted after 9:30pm
without prior arrangement. The
hosts would like to party too! If
you leave the party, there is no re-entry. At around 1:30 am people should
look towards finishing up the scene they’re in and not begin any new
ones. The party is over when we say
it is over. This is not an all-night affair.
- WHO WE ARE: Disclosing that the party is in a hotel, the
(hotel name) or the room number in
any public location or emailing it to people we have not pre-approved is not permitted. Referring
to it as a private party in "town_name" is permissible.
- RULES INFRACTION: Anyone breaking these rules
will be warned once or, depending on the rule, immediately kicked out of
you’re kicked out for any reason:
will not be any refund.
be removed from the group.
be removed from future party lists.
of all the attention that the lifestyle is getting from the law enforcement
community we feel we have the right to impose tighter restrictions to our
parties. We realize other parties have less rules or none at all. If these rules do not agree with you please just
refuse the invite.
your party hosts
Last updated Saturday, August 09, 2008